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How Much Can You Do Sexually Before It Is Cheating?  

tedscott40 58M
72 posts
7/22/2021 1:04 pm
How Much Can You Do Sexually Before It Is Cheating?


I ask this because a friend of mine told me that she loves her husband, but after almost 40 years of marriage, she could use some excitement. She is an attractive woman in her mid 60's. Does yoga and has aged well. She also has a good personality. She asked me if she jerked off a man and he made her come with his hand or mouth, would that be cheating? I told her it may be considered cheating by her husband. Even kissing or partial undress may be considered cheating.
What do you think?
Ted

tedscott40 58M
2487 posts
7/22/2021 1:05 pm

I am concerned that she wants me to play along with this. I would just land out fucking her.
Ted


Brownie202 64F
2388 posts
7/22/2021 2:03 pm

Ask bill clinton. Seriously I think it is cheating.

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tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:48 pm:
I think her husband would agree.
Ted

torqueduss 72M  
4 posts
7/22/2021 2:18 pm

I think its only cheating when you fuck someone--male or female


tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:49 pm:
I understand your point.
Ted

Allhard4u50 59M
1624 posts
7/22/2021 2:51 pm

A Sex Therapist told me……if there is no kissing, emotional involvement…you can fuck, suck all you want and you should not consider it cheating….


tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:50 pm:
Interesting viewpoint.
Ted

prglf1 60M
2 posts
7/22/2021 3:41 pm

If you have to ask… you already screwed up!


tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:50 pm:
Probably.
Ted

jajo696 66F
3681 posts
7/22/2021 3:41 pm

Think it depends on the spouses feelings.....IF he ( and men can) can separate the physical act from any emotional attachment, then he may not deem it cheating. It all boils down to communicating. After many many years.....loving the other, of course..but may not be IN love with them...there is a difference. Only the couple may decide those parameters.


tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:51 pm:
I think she would be better off resisting the temptation. Or just go for it and don't get caught.
Ted

benard69 63M/63F  
5987 posts
7/22/2021 4:12 pm

Betcha Hubby wouldn't be real excited if she did't discuss this...


LadiesR2B1rst 58M  
1496 posts
7/22/2021 4:22 pm

I think you answered your own question. Usually if you have to ask if it's right it's not. I'm not trying to sound like a "know it all" or a "smart a**" . Just my opinion.


curly032409 59M  
2 posts
7/22/2021 4:57 pm

i think when you go back twice to the same person


agelesssexylegs 78F
746 posts
7/22/2021 10:24 pm

She needs to talk to her hubby,not you


tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:52 pm:
She trusts me.
Ted

author51 58F
119604 posts
7/22/2021 10:25 pm

I think it is definitely cheating if in a closed relationship and the spouse does not know...xoxo


tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:52 pm:
I see your point.
Ted

CleavageFan4U 64M  
66908 posts
7/23/2021 7:42 am

It comes down to the definition of what constitutes sex. I've long said "having sex" means DIRECTLY contributing to making the other person cum. So for example, masturbating each other is having sex, but watching each other masturbate is not.

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CleavageFan4U 64M  
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7/23/2021 7:44 am

    Quoting tedscott40:
    I am concerned that she wants me to play along with this. I would just land out fucking her.
    Ted
And yeah, I think you're right, this was a (thinly veiled) come on to you - you LUCKY man!

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tedscott40 replies on 7/23/2021 12:53 pm:
I'm resisting the temptation. For now.
Ted

Heathen_G 62M
7919 posts
7/24/2021 4:36 pm

The reflex is always to say, "It's cheating", because these, among many other, acts are cheating. But after 40 years, is this really cheating, or is it survival of the relationship?

Humans are not naturally monogamous. Monogamy is worked on, daily. And to some extent, they've been working at monogamy for 40 years.

Anyone who gets into a commitment and believes the other person will always in all ways, be 100 percent loyal , is delusional.

Enjoy her company.


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