Like wtf just happened? lol  

bitchkitty2017 66F  
1782 posts
8/1/2019 4:34 am
Like wtf just happened? lol


Man things keep getting , I can't say weird but sure get confusing on this site..Been talking off and on to a seemingly nice chap who said he was viewing my profile alot, and i seen he was almost every time i was on here ..Said he was a bit shy , and i dont mind shy . I don't altogether trust many people on here especially guys who show too much enthusiasm and have to continually ask personal questions and too focused on sex. Hey come on there is way more to a woman than sex...she likes to at least hear that and there is nothing wrong with decent conversation...
Now this guy is local and i totally was pleased with that , so cool finally...and he said he read my profile which specifically states fwb because of my disability..Now sure i realize most men do want a woman who is complete and whole ..I been around awhile and am not a dummy when it comes to the whole scene..I am not a first draft pick and my age and disability is going against me ..sigh!
We chatted and he said he was cool with me and what i was asking for..He kind of hinted that if we met and clicked he did want sex right away ...Told him i couldnt promise him that right away , he said ok ..so i figured he was ok with that , now at this point i had no face pic of him he said he wanted to meet without that aspect..told him i wasnt too keen on that but we could meet...So today was the day we set to meet at 1 pm near town
Woke up came on here and the message read as follows.." sorry to have to do this on such short notice , but i have to meet someone in Halifax and i wont be able to meet you because this other meeting sounds promising..I hope you meet someone that is right for you.."Like wtf? I left a not so nice message back...and i am not a poor loser because the fact i said i couldnt make any promise i would jump between the sheets, hoping he would get whats coming to him and not in a good way...called him an asshole and dropped any messages ...Now if his " new meet " works out he has to drive prob an hour as opposed to 20 minutes..Fuck head? yep major one indeed..
Thanks for listening.

bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 4:35 am

Baa baa sheep sheep...lead me to the edge of the cliff so i can kick you the hell off!!


Overratedsite 60M
18 posts
8/1/2019 4:38 am

Not even a rant...just a reasonable point of view from you. Fellow clearly wasn't looking for much more than 20min.


bert_99 64M  
4 posts
8/1/2019 4:44 am

I'm so sorry to hear about the really quite horrible experience you have just had. I totally agree with your reactions to this. A real bummer. Hang in there & take care.


1seeking1 54F
1945 posts
8/1/2019 5:01 am

I am so sorry to hear. I insist on face pic exchange prior to meeting, if they can not do that we will not meet. By now a red flag for me. Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Have a great day, big hugs.


kingko45 53M
37 posts
8/1/2019 5:08 am

sorry to hear..........unpleasant massage


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:09 am

    Quoting Overratedsite:
    Not even a rant...just a reasonable point of view from you. Fellow clearly wasn't looking for much more than 20min.
I dont normally do this anyway its just a part of life for me and i understand if they say from the jump but to lead a person on and just like that chop off the other parts that are real important ..lol heart is never the same each time


OldrHarleyGuy 67M  
509 posts
8/1/2019 5:09 am

Same thing has happened a lot with this old man here. Shame we are not located closer, we could compare notes and stories, maybe even hit it off, as we seem to be looking for pretty much the same things. Seems my contacts are always looking for much more right out of the gate and I'm a bit too slow for them, I need to know someone before serious things happen.


positively4you 69F  
3466 posts
8/1/2019 5:10 am

The good news is he showed his cards before the meet. He would not show a pic so he is asshole ugly. He is only after a quick fuck and would probably never show up again. He thinks he found something better. Bet she rejects his ugly ass. Here’s hoping. And will probably sniff around again after she dumps him. I think you came out the winner in this.


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:10 am

    Quoting bert_99:
    I'm so sorry to hear about the really quite horrible experience you have just had. I totally agree with your reactions to this. A real bummer. Hang in there & take care.
yeah and i shouldnt let it bother me as much as it does..well least i can say is his loss ..hope his meeting does not work out...lol i am not gonna block him but if he comes back i will torment the crap out of him..ha ha


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:11 am

    Quoting 1seeking1:
    I am so sorry to hear. I insist on face pic exchange prior to meeting, if they can not do that we will not meet. By now a red flag for me. Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Have a great day, big hugs.
thanks from the heart and if his new meet is not going to work out i hope he comes back here on my profile its gonna be torture for him...lol


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:12 am

    Quoting kingko45:
    sorry to hear..........unpleasant massage
it is yes and its not like i dont get all kinds but if he wasnt interested in anything but a roll he could have said hes 58 yrs old so he should act like a man.


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:14 am

    Quoting OldrHarleyGuy:
    Same thing has happened a lot with this old man here. Shame we are not located closer, we could compare notes and stories, maybe even hit it off, as we seem to be looking for pretty much the same things. Seems my contacts are always looking for much more right out of the gate and I'm a bit too slow for them, I need to know someone before serious things happen.
yes i am sure we could as i have no one to do that with and i think its a very refreshing thing to have any conversations with people who have a fresh perspective on things thanks


gtrider28 62M  

8/1/2019 5:15 am

WTF is right He is a fucking idiot Sorry that happened to you E but you will meet a great person who respects you for who you are. Have a great day Hon


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:16 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    The good news is he showed his cards before the meet. He would not show a pic so he is asshole ugly. He is only after a quick fuck and would probably never show up again. He thinks he found something better. Bet she rejects his ugly ass. Here’s hoping. And will probably sniff around again after she dumps him. I think you came out the winner in this.
I appreciate your positivity as your profile name suggests you seem like a very positive person ..I think i am the lucky one here showing his face prob would have put me off anyway..lol yeah let him go on thinking he did better ..cant wait..


NakedHermit4u 50M  
9 posts
8/1/2019 5:19 am

You dodged a bullet it seems. Hey, let him have his "promising" encounter. He was only looking for a sure thing. My guess is, if the meet went well, he feared you making his eyes rolling back into his head and speaking gibberish. LOL
I get what you are saying. You make a commitment and stick with it. Patience. Something we lack nowadays. Like these Offer Up folk. Be there in 10 minutes, arrive and they sold it knowing you were a few minutes out. Might be some cosmic event at play but usually it wasn't meant to be and I do find a better one at a better price shortly thereafter. I dare bet that if this other person was a member here as well, I don't suspect there will be a testimonial posted highlighting their encounter. Muhahaaaa.


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:20 am

    Quoting gtrider28:
    WTF is right He is a fucking idiot Sorry that happened to you E but you will meet a great person who respects you for who you are. Have a great day Hon
Thanks sweetheart and i stand by my convictions as to being a disabled person and being honest right from the jump so people know its not an issue to me and if they have a problem with this its their problem...thanks


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:23 am

    Quoting NakedHermit4u:
    You dodged a bullet it seems. Hey, let him have his "promising" encounter. He was only looking for a sure thing. My guess is, if the meet went well, he feared you making his eyes rolling back into his head and speaking gibberish. LOL
    I get what you are saying. You make a commitment and stick with it. Patience. Something we lack nowadays. Like these Offer Up folk. Be there in 10 minutes, arrive and they sold it knowing you were a few minutes out. Might be some cosmic event at play but usually it wasn't meant to be and I do find a better one at a better price shortly thereafter. I dare bet that if this other person was a member here as well, I don't suspect there will be a testimonial posted highlighting their encounter. Muhahaaaa.
Yes i agree if he would have kept our meet then it wasnt what he or i wanted why just not go seperate ways instead of the old roll and tuck..lol I have no issue with anyone but attraction needs to be there and if its not act like an adult and say ..not boot someone you never met lol thanks sweetheart for the support..


routerdf220088 60M
47 posts
8/1/2019 5:33 am

sounds like he was the loser in this ,,not a very bright person , meeting someone to see if you have attraction is key to good sex , if you are just doing it for sex. well then you will not have a enjoyable life maybe a moment but nothing more.


BBCNSA88 49M
44 posts
8/1/2019 5:37 am

Good vibes and trust and honesty, helps ,but no one doe it


Dontbgentle2 51M
1 post
8/1/2019 5:41 am

Sorry to hear. But yes you probably dodged a bullet! Screw that guy...and not ina good way! Plenty more of us cool guys out there! Move on!


pocogato12 67F  
27764 posts
8/1/2019 5:42 am

He is a first class boor!!! How rude to let you know in a message right before the 1 pm selected time. Asshat- well, maybe that is doing asshats an injustice.
Good thing the true colors showed up now.I was gong to say "screw him" but you didnt get that chance( smirk). There is someone out there that is honest and has manners- torment is too good

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mywifeknowsimbi 43M
17 posts
8/1/2019 5:52 am

you are clearly better off without having to waste any more of your time on him


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:54 am

    Quoting routerdf220088:
    sounds like he was the loser in this ,,not a very bright person , meeting someone to see if you have attraction is key to good sex , if you are just doing it for sex. well then you will not have a enjoyable life maybe a moment but nothing more.
Plainly put thats a truthful comment ..attraction is to me if i am spending time with that person as an fwb i dont think its asking too much..but each his own


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:55 am

    Quoting BBCNSA88:
    Good vibes and trust and honesty, helps ,but no one doe it
Sadly lots of men say things that they think a woman wants to hear and falling for it just entices them to do mare damage than good..Thanks


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 5:57 am

    Quoting Dontbgentle2:
    Sorry to hear. But yes you probably dodged a bullet! Screw that guy...and not ina good way! Plenty more of us cool guys out there! Move on!
I know and appreciate the good guys even though there are few here in my neck of the woods ..married and cheating without permission here seems like the norm ..i dont interact with men who are attached whether she knows or not i got too much to lose here if i am fingered . by the spouse


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 6:00 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    He is a first class boor!!! How rude to let you know in a message right before the 1 pm selected time. Asshat- well, maybe that is doing asshats an injustice.
    Good thing the true colors showed up now.I was gong to say "screw him" but you didnt get that chance( smirk). There is someone out there that is honest and has manners- torment is too good
I agree you know when i wrote the blog i was feeling down but knowuing there are better men around is my positive note as well as you people who support me in anything ...that makes up for all the idiots out there who let a person down..thanks...he just told me things that he thought i wanted to hear ...thanx


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 6:01 am

    Quoting mywifeknowsimbi:
    you are clearly better off without having to waste any more of your time on him
you are right i dont have the time to waste on losers who dont have any idea what the things they do affect people...his loss !


electrastorm69 38F  
93 posts
8/1/2019 6:03 am

Despite being totally infuriating, it worked out for the best. Unfortunately this happens way too often on here. Lies is the currency used and most times it is best to suspend all expectations until things actually materialize...I've learnt that the hard way.


jajo696 64F
635 posts
8/1/2019 6:50 am

Its happens to us all. Will probably happen again at some point. U have invested time in getting to know him....and for most of us. females....that very fact creates major disappointment., when they turn out to be idiots. The good news is that, you wont invest any more feeling with him.....cuz he clearly doesnt have a clue. ~~


positively4you 69F  
3466 posts
8/1/2019 7:12 am

I bet he is going to meet Molly.


positively4you 69F  
3466 posts
8/1/2019 7:13 am

MollyLove1


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 11:55 am

yeah maybe lol and a hardy ha ha ha thats some brave now isnt it thats a real winner ..omg i never seen the likes...


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 11:57 am

    Quoting electrastorm69:
    Despite being totally infuriating, it worked out for the best. Unfortunately this happens way too often on here. Lies is the currency used and most times it is best to suspend all expectations until things actually materialize...I've learnt that the hard way.
yeah i know and you know since you guys have responded so well to the post its a great feeling to actually see that i am not the only one it does happen to..i been stood up so many times i cannot remember the count ..Thanx from the bottom of my heart... : ))))


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/1/2019 11:59 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    Its happens to us all. Will probably happen again at some point. U have invested time in getting to know him....and for most of us. females....that very fact creates major disappointment., when they turn out to be idiots. The good news is that, you wont invest any more feeling with him.....cuz he clearly doesnt have a clue. ~~
you are right hes history and any guy only gets one kick at the can he got his chance its a done deal thanx too many immature children on here these days..few show intelligence


Vixn_Vella 44F  
14770 posts
8/2/2019 10:22 am

I guess the silver lining is that you actually heard from him-even if to blow you off. Most men would just ghost. He saved you in the long run from wasting your time.

Still a dick move though lol

I have no effing clue where I'm going and what I'm saying Vixn_Vella

Its not me....It's you.

And no...we cannot be friends


Cutebutt4300 43M
8 posts
8/2/2019 1:32 pm

    Quoting Vixn_Vella:
    I guess the silver lining is that you actually heard from him-even if to blow you off. Most men would just ghost. He saved you in the long run from wasting your time.

    Still a dick move though lol
I agree with the first part about not ghosting..but how is being honest and open a dick move?

I can't speak for him, nor would I want to..I hear one side of the story and from it it seems the guys found a better match. He communicated that, in a seemingly non harsh way and moved on. There was no relationship and no true obligations to or from either party to be 100% devoted to each other.

Seems sort of adult if you ask me. Both parties are better off. To be frank we need more open communication like this as opposed to running around behind each other's backs.


sckinkcouple 61M/56F  
448 posts
8/2/2019 2:10 pm

I think you got lucky that you didn't waste time on that asshat. You are better than that. Don't let that loser affect you at all, it is his loss.


jd428776 52M
65 posts
8/2/2019 3:16 pm

Guy is a douche. Just another idiot thinking with his dick. I agree with the others.... you dodged a bullet. Be glad! NEVER lower the bar! If a man cannot meet the bar, then he's not worth your time. Your value is NEVER determined by anyone else! Ever. I'd block him and allow him to wonder what he missed.....


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/2/2019 3:20 pm

    Quoting Cutebutt4300:
    I agree with the first part about not ghosting..but how is being honest and open a dick move?

    I can't speak for him, nor would I want to..I hear one side of the story and from it it seems the guys found a better match. He communicated that, in a seemingly non harsh way and moved on. There was no relationship and no true obligations to or from either party to be 100% devoted to each other.

    Seems sort of adult if you ask me. Both parties are better off. To be frank we need more open communication like this as opposed to running around behind each other's backs.
I am not 100% in agreement with that but i will say i did thank him for contacting me to tell me that but ....and this is a big butt...I dropped a couple meets just to accomodate him and his time he says is limited as is mine to meet him...he made the time and place and to me that is an obligation to actually meet and man up nuts to honor that appointment? meet ..open communication is great when its warranted but to drop someone from a meet because of better ? fuck no i dont agree he was a man in that case...its a brazen and ignorant person that does this to any woman...Is better really better? I am as good as the next person and dont settle for scraps so i dont think someone else should ..and to drive an hour and half to get laid? lol how is that finding better?


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/2/2019 3:23 pm

    Quoting sckinkcouple:
    I think you got lucky that you didn't waste time on that asshat. You are better than that. Don't let that loser affect you at all, it is his loss.
naw i actually forgot about him already funny thing is though he was on my profile today prob reading the nasty note i left him ..lol thanx


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/2/2019 3:26 pm

    Quoting jd428776:
    Guy is a douche. Just another idiot thinking with his dick. I agree with the others.... you dodged a bullet. Be glad! NEVER lower the bar! If a man cannot meet the bar, then he's not worth your time. Your value is NEVER determined by anyone else! Ever. I'd block him and allow him to wonder what he missed.....
yeah i dont let it bother me too much only reason i put this here was to let ppl know whats out there ..i mean just because i am disabled it doesnt mean i am helpless he will come back i seen him on my profile today lol...I wont block him if he wants to apologize its ok i wont give him shit but a chance to make amends


Cutebutt4300 43M
8 posts
8/2/2019 4:21 pm

    Quoting bitchkitty2017:
    I am not 100% in agreement with that but i will say i did thank him for contacting me to tell me that but ....and this is a big butt...I dropped a couple meets just to accomodate him and his time he says is limited as is mine to meet him...he made the time and place and to me that is an obligation to actually meet and man up nuts to honor that appointment? meet ..open communication is great when its warranted but to drop someone from a meet because of better ? fuck no i dont agree he was a man in that case...its a brazen and ignorant person that does this to any woman...Is better really better? I am as good as the next person and dont settle for scraps so i dont think someone else should ..and to drive an hour and half to get laid? lol how is that finding better?
I understand your frustration..but at the same point You folks have never met, nor do you have obligations to each other.

Would you rather a person lead you on, or simply state that they found something closer to what they are looking for? Sure we, as humans want to be the best, when we think we are...but to be fair, many times we perceive ourselves above what others do. It is a good quality, but why judge the other person for not seeing what we think they should have seen?

All I am saying is that, we are all looking for something..can we judge another because it didn't work out? To be fair I find it less atrocious to decline a meet than to complain about the fact that a meet was declined. I say this with the utmost respect to you. He may have gotten your hopes up, but at least he spared you travel time and/or stood you up. He fessed up to his choice, prior to really putting you out, and that should be ok in our society, not punished in my opinion.

Not every conversation is going to lead to long term relations..though I imagine many of us would like it to. Honest communication, even if opposite to our thinking, is far superior to hiding and lying.


Cutebutt4300 43M
8 posts
8/2/2019 4:28 pm

Side note, I say the above with the utmost respect. I'm not trying to argue, I simply enjoy discussion and harbor no ill will with my comments..other than probing something that crossed my path and caught my interest.


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4465 posts
8/2/2019 5:06 pm

    Quoting Cutebutt4300:
    Side note, I say the above with the utmost respect. I'm not trying to argue, I simply enjoy discussion and harbor no ill will with my comments..other than probing something that crossed my path and caught my interest.
Point taken filed away and thanks for the comment ...I dont argue to make a point but its still rude to not at least meet and judge from there instead of hounding me at every corner and making me feel good only to do what he done..still should have kept the meet it would have only taken a second to say he wasnt interested......thanks


yourethehost 54M

8/2/2019 9:30 pm

Blessings come in different forms. Your paths were not meant to cross. Real people meet, fakes don't.


scoupe42 56M  
6735 posts
8/3/2019 7:26 am

Sorry to hear, hang in there!


DiscoverMidlife 53M
31 posts
8/3/2019 7:32 am

for what it is worth I am a 53 yo man. I just read your post and I DO think you are a first draft pick. Very sexy to me!


anythingoesinvic 39M
18 posts
8/6/2019 7:33 am

sounds like a reasonable "rant". I understand you being upset


hpmoped1 64M
5 posts
8/8/2019 10:02 pm

Men can be cruel hu. You must hang in there get pics and try again


lurch4040 50M
6 posts
8/13/2019 3:58 am

sorry to hear


wackerpp 48M
127 posts
8/14/2019 10:21 pm

Sorry to hear that, but as the others mentioned probably you dodged a bullet there.
hopefully he drove an hour only to find a nice hairy dude waiting for him


azriel1970 48M
25875 posts
8/15/2019 5:31 am

Sigh....... People are such assholes aren't they? I am sorry for that. For what it is worth the ladies do it to the guys as well so there is that! Still it sucks and I am sure that it still stings.


Con_Ganas_2017 22M
20 posts
8/17/2019 2:25 pm

Deliciousss body! ! ! !


MediaDad1983 38M
3 posts
8/20/2019 1:59 am

I wish people would do this more often. So not worth your time and effort and weeding themselves out before you have spent time and money on them. Its a shitty thing it happened but better this way than a date the promise of more and then ghosting


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