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Posted:Jul 6, 2021 1:06 pm
Last Updated:Jul 12, 2021 9:17 am
We all have our own ideas about what makes a sexual experience an okay, good, bad, or great experience. But was the experience good for others? We can’t really do any single thing that changes the outcome of our sexcapades but find the answer to this question in a general overview of satisfying people.

We must know what the other person is thinking and why. This is not an easy task as not everyone is honest about their wants and desires. It is even more difficult to learn about the why especially when we are meeting people for the first time. This dives a little too deep into the psyche of others and will most likely push boundaries too far. But when others completely fill out their profile it is possible to glean information from that profile. A general overview of their experience likes, and dislikes is very helpful in determining compatibility and interests as well as how to satisfy the person. When information is left out, we are all lost as to where to go from there. There are too many questions left unanswered and there is no jumping-off point to start a conversation. How many times we must tell people what we are into is determined by what we place in our profile and whether or not people are reading that profile.

Reading others’ profiles shows that you have an interest in pleasing the other person. When people just look at pictures and videos and then send a message asking questions that are already answered in the profile you are outright telling the receiver that you didn’t read their profile. This is the first red flag that you have run up a flagpole for the receiver to see. You have demonstrated that you are not a detail-oriented person that is willing to take the time to please someone else. It’s the details that make the difference in every encounter we have. A little to the left, higher, harder, not so deep, faster, slower, or “Oh, stir it around baby” are all details that one must pay attention to during sex. How can we be confident that you can follow instructions or pay attention to details if you can’t even bother to fill out your profile or read ours? We can’t. But we need to know something about the other person in some general brush strokes before we can even get that far.

It’s the details that matter in a great sexual experience. It is how close to the attention you have paid to the other person, how much you have learned about them, and how willing you are to give them pleasure before you seek your own pleasure. Many derive pleasure from giving pleasure. We are both this way but want others to give the old college a try when it comes to pleasing us as well. For those who haven’t been to college, that means putting in a lot of effort without someone else forcing you to do so. It means reading that profile, trying to read between the lines, and gleaning as much as you can before sending that first message. Single women and couples get a lot of mail. Yours is going to have to stand out if you want to move to the next level. Compliments are the best way to start without going overboard. Then talk about yourself and what you share with the person you are addressing. Yes, you can come off as rude, crude, or vulgar even though this is a sex site. Pay attention to details and slow down your roll.

We are a very different couple from most. If Sissy sees something she likes, we get right down to the meat and potatoes of it all. We send a couple of messages to test your knowledge and if you pass that we are off to get naked. How you perform after that is how we determine whether we play with you again or not. But don’t count on most people to set updates this way. Take this advice to heart no matter who you are messaging. Pay attention to details, follow directions, and leave your ego at home.
Fakes and Flakes
Posted:Jul 4, 2021 8:57 pm
Last Updated:Jul 21, 2021 8:37 am
In the swinging lifestyle the women make all of the rules and the rest of us abide by them or we don't get to play.

Why don't we pay for the room? The simple answer is because if we paid for the room every time someone wanted to fuck me, we would go broke.

Why do guys create profiles of couples and/or girls? So they can then try to pass themselves off as a guy that the girl wants to check us out first.

Why do guys talk a big game and then stand people up? Because they don't have the balls to play in real life and know nothing but how to play games.

Why do people try to direct others while they are on cam without even tipping? Because they are too cheap, are narcissistic, and only fantasize about sex.

Why do people in cam rooms say, "I want to breed you"? The narcissism involved in that process is only outweighed by the deep lack of understanding of responsibility. We have played with a couple of these guys and they are the biggest assholes on the planet.

Why do people say that they have read our profile but don't know what to bring with them when we play? Because they haven't read our profile or they have read our profile, and have a reading comprehension issue. Mostly it's because they think they can lie to us and get away with it and just looked at our pics and videos anyway.

Why do people come into cam rooms and say I shouldn't be doing this? Now, this is a particularly stupid approach to trying to get laid. Insulting the person you are approaching right off the bat says more about you than it does me.

Why do guys think that we would drive 100 miles at midnight to their house so they can fuck me for 15 minutes? Once again, narcissism is strong in these people. They have little experience in swinging or in relationships either.

Why would a person come into any cam room just to put the person down? Every single cam girl, guy, or couple has experienced this. I almost feel sorry for the person that does this. Their lives are so irreparable at this point that it will take years of psychotherapy to repair.

How can someone that has been on Vivid Hookups for years have no friends or fans? Well, that speaks for itself, doesn't it? If even over a years' time you are not able to become friends by just chatting with people here on Vivid Hookups then you probably have some major anger issues, lose your patience quickly, are generally unpleasant, and/or your expectations of others is extremely warped.

Why are you a member of an adult swingers website and spend time talking about conservative values? The inner conflict that you must face every day undoubtedly has your head spinning to the point of complete confusion.

Why don't people fill out their profiles? Because they are too lazy and will be a lazy sex partner as well. If they can't put in the effort on a profile, I would expect much in the sexual arena either. Zero effort.

Why don't guys put in the effort on Vivid Hookups? Because they are under the impression that everyone is a sex fiend and can't wait to get their cocks in them. They don't see other members as being human with a heart and soul. They can't imagine that normal people can have extraordinary sex...because they never have.

What does this all mean? Most of the people on Vivid Hookups are not swingers. Most have never experienced the closeness of truly sharing themselves with others. They would rather tell a lie than the truth and this is often the reason they are alone in this world or deeply unsatisfied in their life and/or marriage. It isn't about growth or adventure for the non-swingers here on Vivid Hookups. It's about conquest and use. It's about a twisted sense of how the lifestyle operates and how to navigate this wonderful world.

Swingers take the time to better themselves personally and sexually. We read, talk, ask questions and try to learn more about what turns our partner on both in and out of the bedroom. We search for new adventures. We expand our horizons. We keep an open mind. We don't close people out that are different than us. We are accepting of those who don't attempt to force their will on us. But most of all, we are intelligent, caring, and supportive.

Swingers would never intentionally try to hurt, scam, or defraud another person. We aren't here for money but for great sexual experiences, lasting friendships, and the comradery of others with common interests. That's what the "Lifestyle" is really about. That's what we are about.
Camming and Cumming During the Virus
Posted:Jul 28, 2020 3:25 pm
Last Updated:Jul 4, 2021 7:58 pm
We want to thank everyone that has enthusiastically viewed our cam during this virus lockdown. The thousands of you that have viewed, liked, and followed us have been wonderful for my orgasms.
I get so horny having all of you guys and gals cumming while I am playing on cam. Thanks all of you for letting me watch you cum. I get sooo horny thinking of all of the cum you have spilled over me. I just wish we could have done it in person. A cum shower. YUMMY!
Well, as soon as this virus blows over we will be going on a Sissy Sexcapade to the western part of the US. Colorado, Wyoming, Idaho, Washington, Oregon, California, Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico, and back into Texas. If you are interested in hosting us in any of these states, please let us know.

Sissy and James
The Turn On of Live Broadcasting on Cam
Posted:Feb 17, 2019 1:01 pm
Last Updated:Aug 1, 2020 8:29 am
I've been camming more lately after a short break from playing and camming. It was was not easy to forget the fun and orgasms I have while camming. It about the only times I get out my big toys instead of just using my Hitachi vibrator. I love opening myself up to ALL of you sexy people. Just knowing that ur are stroking ur cocks and ladies pussy gettin wet for me, I am even more turned on. My record number for orgasms in a 3 hr period was sixty. We were on chaturbate for 4 hrs one time and I set my goal for 100. The viewers tipped and egged me on to 200. YES! 200! Soooo....I love to cam!
When Sissy met James...How We Met
Posted:Feb 16, 2019 11:02 am
Last Updated:May 10, 2021 8:11 pm
We get this question a lot so hubby decided to tell the story:

Soo...I'm on a straight dating site and saw a 48 yo girl not far from me. I chat with her for a couple of weeks and she indicated she might want to see a lot of guys...so I took her to a swing club. She loved it and told her 20yo roommate about it and about me. The next weekend the 48yo wanted to go back the the club and we stayed overnight. When we got back to her house sunday we sat and watched football as Sissy came sliding across the hardwood floor like Tom Cruise in Risky Business. She was talking and showing herself off to me and I was just mesmerised by her. My cock got rock hard instantly. The 48 yo shooed her off but I wasn't having it. A week later the 48yo drove Sissy the 20yo to my house and we played right away. Holy cow I was in heaven....and so was she. Sissy was loving all the attention. So...I introduce her another female playmate of mine and she had a blast and just came so many times just one after another. We experimented in all of her fantasies and some she didn't know she had and .......she just never left. I didn't want her to go and she didn't wanna leave so 4 months later we got married and it's still heaven for me.
An Vivid Hookups Profile I Saw
Posted:Jun 9, 2018 2:51 pm
Last Updated:Aug 1, 2020 8:36 am
I ran across a profile today that interested me.

HungnProud...nice cock!

His top fans were a little older than him as they were his mother(toothlesBJ) and his father(lonelynlookin).

See pics...

Hungs father commented: "We are very proud of our . Why wouldn't we be his top fans."

Small city versus Dallas
Posted:May 26, 2018 2:41 pm
Last Updated:Jul 12, 2020 10:07 am

We have noticed that when we change our profile and go into Dallas to play the number of playmates we meet and play with exponentially explode! Not in the way you would think either. Yes there are more people in Dallas but no one seems to flake on our dates like in East Texas. The last time we went to Dallas to play we had one person cancel on us after agreeing to meet. Here in east texas...about 90% dont follow through. Is it because of fears they cant overcome or something else?
Anyone have an answer?
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Small city versus Dallas
Posted:May 26, 2018 2:41 pm
Last Updated:May 10, 2021 8:12 pm

We have noticed that when we change our profile and go into Dallas to play the number of playmates we meet and play with exponentially explode! Not in the way you would think either. Yes there are more people in Dallas but no one seems to flake on our dates like in East Texas. The last time we went to Dallas to play we had one person cancel on us after agreeing to meet. Here in east texas...about 90% dont follow through. Is it because of fears they cant overcome or something else?
Anyone have an answer?
Weird thoughts and funny writing.
Posted:Apr 23, 2018 7:58 pm
Last Updated:Aug 1, 2020 8:39 am

So, would it freak people out if I wrote things that are just weird and meant to be funny, but also kinda sick?

Or would this kinda blogging be just too much and freak people out in a kind of, "Fava beans and a nice chianti" way?

I need lots of feedback on this before I even try, so leave a comment after reading and let me know.


Sissy & James
Broadcasting & Camming
Posted:Apr 22, 2018 7:43 pm
Last Updated:May 10, 2021 8:13 pm

We cammed on Vivid Hookups today and chatted with a bunch of cool people. We even met and new friend that we hope to play with on 4/23. Fingers crossed.

We would like to thank the 100+ people that viewed our cam and chatted with us. We hope that everyone enjoyed the show as we strive to please everyone that we can. Giving you pleasure turns us both on and makes us cum even harder.

We will be back on very soon and if anyone has a special time or request for us to cam please feel free to comment here or on IM.

Sissy & James

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