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Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?  

DiscreteSlowRide 51M
128 posts
7/19/2021 1:31 pm
Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?

Is it common knowledge among your friends and family that you are on Vivid Hookups?

OR

Is this your dirty little secret?

Regardless if you have an open marriage, open relationship, if you swing, swamp, cross dress, dress up, dress down, strip, hoo..whatever your purpose here is. Knowing this is the one place that all fetishes, all alt lifestyle pleasures are accepted and welcome. How open are you about your presence here?
Don't Tell Anyone I am on AFF
I am fairly open about it
I attempt to maintain discretion
Why? What have you heard about me???
No one would ever imagine I am on here.
I Don't Care Who Knows


lust4life59 62F  
2015 posts
7/19/2021 1:45 pm

I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.


Brownie202 64F
2388 posts
7/19/2021 2:39 pm

I haven't told anybody.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:11 pm:
The less people know, the less we have to explain.

justskin1 69M
12494 posts
7/19/2021 2:54 pm

Some people know and I am fairly picky who I let know. Then again, if someone finds out I wouldn't get upset. Besides, I have noted in my blog that if you recognize me from on here it is okay to say Hi justskin.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:02 pm:
There you go! You are owning your actions.

countryqueen1 71F
69 posts
7/19/2021 3:08 pm

Totally my secret, lol. No one who knows me knows this side of me


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:00 pm:
Same with me. No one would ever imagine I am on a site like this nor would they ever connect me with the experiences I wrote about.

shhhh

SecretAgent_BJ 73T
157 posts
7/19/2021 3:10 pm

Sometimes even Vivid Hookups doesn't know I'm here.


BiSussi 60F
955 posts
7/19/2021 4:31 pm

Neither have I, couldn't afford it, office or family
Only by boyfriends and special girl friends know


I love pussies and adore nice dicks


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:10 pm:
I hear you there! Business wise could be a problem for me and family...ugh...don't get me started on family.

L0nelyH3ART 38F  
15 posts
7/19/2021 4:56 pm

I don’t tell people but I also have no problem with face pics in my profile - it just makes me laugh cause most men that want discretion only show their cock where as I noticed women who also seek discretion have no problem with a face pic. With that said I figure if someone recognizes me oh well their obviously on here too… lol


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 5:58 pm:
Very interesting points you make about the differences between men and women who prefer to be discrete. That could be a whole discussion.

nekkedcouple 60M/55F  
82 posts
7/19/2021 5:48 pm

We don't talk about it to our friends and family but we have been approached a few times by people who asked us "Excuse me, Are you nekkedcouple? from Vivid Hookups?"


Wat2dowithme 101F
29 posts
7/19/2021 6:13 pm

It absolutely blows my mind how people try to hide. They claim it's due to work or privacy? If you're freaky and you want to get laid own up to it there's no reason for anybody be acting like a little BITCH about it. And seriously if someone you know sees your profile how would they explain that to anybody? Without looking like a dirty pervert themselves. Man up everybody 🤪


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/20/2021 9:39 am:
For better or for worse people will judge one's choices that fall outside of the norm.

Some of the people who have profiles here are some kind of public figure be it in their community such as teachers, in local government or business owners and so on.
As ideal as it is to say to the world... This is what I am into accept it or F off!!... Its simply not realistic.

Discretion is critical for such people. Not everyone is hiding from spouses and sig others.

author51 58F
119604 posts
7/19/2021 10:51 pm

I try to maintain discretion as I live in a small town and own a business. Having said that there are 3 of my closest friends along with a sister who knows I am on here..xoxo


Deepnwide76 44M  
48 posts
7/20/2021 12:11 am

I want to tell people but they wouldn't get it maybe I get more dick who knows but it being my secret is such a turn on


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:31 am:
Fair point. A lot of people who would never come here would not get it. I hear you. It's best to keep it to yourself.

Way2sassy412 49F
1 post
7/20/2021 12:49 am

Only one friend knows and he’s on here also. Most would claim I’m too sweet. My sexuality has floored more than one person. I hide it well I guess


jajo696 66F
3681 posts
7/20/2021 1:35 am

    Quoting SecretAgent_BJ:
    Sometimes even Vivid Hookups doesn't know I'm here.
lol....so true....the way they treat us ~


jajo696 66F
3681 posts
7/20/2021 1:40 am

I have strict boundaries between personal and professional....very strict. Once i retire, i may consider being more open here. Then i think about anything we post here is property of the site to do as they may and considering they have been hacked more times than once. Its still a slippery slope....and makes no sense in having pics out there randomly. We shall see ~~

I voted...." no one would ever imagine "


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:33 am:
I'm with you. It is best to keep boundaries between personal and business.

basehorbicpl4fun 50M/40F
12 posts
7/20/2021 6:19 am

i dont hide it at all. I love the fact that it is out there and everyone around me knows about it. It usually leads to a really good time with many more friends i find. Of course there are always exceptions but i say have fun while you can.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 11:48 am:
That has to be such a free feeling when being as open as you are opens the doors to broaden your reach in the swing community or within the groups who enjoy playing together.

rdy2try4 56F  
3282 posts
7/20/2021 7:21 am

I have been here for many years. I have always had a face photo. I do not hide that I am here at all! Why should I? I am not ashamed of myself nor what I am doing. I have said repeatedly I wish people did not have such a vision or view of this site that they need to hide they are here. I have seen men mostly say they would never marry anyone from here. WHY?? They are here too! Why is it that if you are on here you somehow are not worthy of being married? Why would you be ashamed of wanting to find someone that you can connect with enough to have sex with them? I wish with all my heart that people did not see this as a place that is dirty or you think the people on it are dirty and have a lack of respect for them be they male or female. It is an adult social network. Stop viewing it as an online whorehouse. I don't know anyone that truly wants to marry someone that won't have sex so why view looking for a partner, boy/girl friend, husband/wife, or just an encounter with someone you sexually are compatible with. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I agree wholeheartedly to the ones that have posted that if someone sees you here THEY are here! You can't throw stones at someone that is doing what you yourself are doing. If you think someone will look down on you then maybe not have a dick pic or a vagina pic as your main pic??? Just a suggestion, but there is no reason to be ashamed to be on here. Wanting a healthy sex life with another person is good. If you put the view of this is an online whorehouse then that is on you, but you will find quickly that it is not.


luvstockings61 60M  
18 posts
7/20/2021 8:13 am

A couple of (non-Vivid Hookups) friends know I am on here.


Atxfemchub 35M
16 posts
7/20/2021 9:30 am

My love of bwc's is a secret to everyone in the real world lol


LacieLu 37F
35 posts
7/20/2021 9:45 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

    But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.
Oh, please spill. What juicy site am i missing out on?


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/20/2021 9:56 am:
hahaha... That was my question as well

VinDude135 35M  
1 post
7/20/2021 8:56 pm

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

    But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.
What site is much much more sexually explicit than this one?


bfc696969 34M
26 posts
7/21/2021 12:26 am

i like to keep my sexlife private if youre in it youre in it, if not the fuck you until you fuck me


HoneyNutt69 52M  
34 posts
7/21/2021 3:00 am

absolutely, only my business to those I know.


1just4fun61 60M
340 posts
7/21/2021 6:55 am

What other site are you on?


fflkn4hotbabe 71M  
15 posts
7/21/2021 8:12 am

This site let's you be someone who can speak without someone judging me.


nwga1958 63M
15 posts
7/21/2021 12:30 pm

I have confided with several of my friends that I am on this site. I am very discrete about it but not ashamed of being here.


Strongandvirile4 56M
23 posts
7/21/2021 6:43 pm

Well people who I know on here know I am on it but for work purposes I try to maintain some discretion


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 6:57 pm:
Smart. More people seem more concerned about their jobs than friends knowing.

For_Real2170 55F  
1 post
7/21/2021 7:03 pm

It’s funny to me that some view being as “pushing the envelope” or taking a risk in some way. There’s an immaturity to so many of the users here and their way of presenting themselves and communicating.

I don’t think it was intended to be a place for men to post their dick pics and feel as though that’s their dirty little secret.

If used correctly, mature adults should be able to see each other’s faces, read thoughtful profiles, and connect accordingly.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/22/2021 6:41 am:
It's interesting point you make about immaturity one finds on here because as many good people I have found on here, there are so many who are very small minded. Hence they way men greet women in a first email to them. Such as ... wanna f#ck? I wrote a whole point about this a few days ago about how social rules fly out the window on here. 50 year old adults are reduced to teenagers, which I guess is typical for a social site.

Can you imagine if people knew how to act their age here??

dwz5234 68M  
1208 posts
7/22/2021 5:56 am

I really don't care who knows


tastemeY 55M  
103 posts
7/22/2021 7:43 am

A lot of friends know and a lot don't know. I've even had a co worker come up to me and tell me he and his girlfriend came across my profile. I beleive it's all about good clean, safe, sexual fun.


globugg48 60F
4 posts
7/22/2021 11:37 am

My friends would never understand so why share my little secret. I think its more fun like this.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/22/2021 7:43 pm:
I can completely relate to the friends scenario!

Wifepleaser994 26M
21 posts
7/22/2021 2:49 pm

The only reason I don’t show my face. I can send it privately but not out to everyone.


minnyguy218 41M
6 posts
7/23/2021 4:49 am

My job is fairly public, so discretion is a must for me.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/23/2021 6:20 am:
Understood! This is exactly the point I have made earlier in this post. There is often more at stake than just a marriage or taking a chance and showing ones face.

ShaKeaRxoox 21M
8 posts
7/23/2021 2:38 pm

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

    But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.
which site ?


ShaKeaRxoox 21M
8 posts
7/23/2021 2:41 pm

Of course, my family does not know, but there is no one in my friend group who does not know. 😅


landedinSC 53M
2 posts
7/23/2021 4:56 pm

Nobody I know would have a clue I am here or enjoy bisex every once in a while


Oh_Daddy_Yes 57M  
15 posts
7/23/2021 6:59 pm

While the community within the site is knowing and accepting, the community outside the site can be judgmental and detrimental with such knowledge. We live in the day and age of #MeToo which can end someone's career within a day. The threat from 'cancellation' can be misguided and unjustified, all based on misperception and judgement.

Is there one seeking the arms and comfort of an older man?


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
238 posts
7/23/2021 7:36 pm

    Quoting Oh_Daddy_Yes:
    While the community within the site is knowing and accepting, the community outside the site can be judgmental and detrimental with such knowledge. We live in the day and age of #MeToo which can end someone's career within a day. The threat from 'cancellation' can be misguided and unjustified, all based on misperception and judgement.
Agreed!


HornyBoy6969767 45M
69 posts
7/23/2021 9:41 pm

I am on here because I like fine lookin women. Everybody knows that anyways.


yesthefunofit 46F

7/24/2021 7:59 pm

Why such an angry, judgemental post? And coming from someone who can't post their real age? 101? Right. Everyone has their own reasons of why they do what they do. Don't judge.


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
238 posts
7/24/2021 8:07 pm

    Quoting yesthefunofit:
    Why such an angry, judgemental post? And coming from someone who can't post their real age? 101? Right. Everyone has their own reasons of why they do what they do. Don't judge.
Some people post comments to stir the pot a bit. Or her tone could have been heavy sarcasm.
Almost everyone else gets it.


APTman 44M
25 posts
7/24/2021 8:18 pm

looking for a more sexually explicit site...


Mainer04401388 41M
14 posts
7/25/2021 4:22 am

Secret.....shhhh be berry berry quiet.......hahaha hunting beaver


LoneRider440 50M
8 posts
7/25/2021 7:08 am

It's not something that comes up in everyday conversation, so it's nothing to just talk about in a vanilla setting. If and when I find people that are truly interested in the lifestyle and all it has to offer, I let them know.


Dacaterangler26 52M
7 posts
7/26/2021 6:52 am

never tell anyone its my HAPPY SPACE


oceans269 61T  
10 posts
7/27/2021 3:53 am

I like to stay discreet


oralfixation2u 64M
59 posts
7/27/2021 8:42 am

I don't keep it from EVERYONE I know, but most don't have any idea. I've shared my bisexuality with a more than a couple of women I've had sexual relations with, mostly because they wanted to be involved.


BBWjawn 36F
50 posts
7/27/2021 11:10 am

no one knows im on here lmao


wvuandjmu1963 58M
12 posts
7/27/2021 3:43 pm

i like to be discreet about it


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
238 posts
7/27/2021 4:38 pm

    Quoting BBWjawn:
    no one knows im on here lmao
Your secret is safe here


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
238 posts
7/27/2021 4:39 pm

I hear that!


JondiceAgain 30M
1 post
7/27/2021 8:39 pm

Definitely a secret lol


shelene6443 31F
4 posts
7/28/2021 6:38 am

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ItsThtPervertGuy 41M
479 posts
7/28/2021 10:22 pm

Why does everyone need too know all parts of my life? I agree with the blog creator's comment when one poster said people should man up and stop acting like a Bitch. Who is this person to tell others what they should and should not do. Like Discreet Slow Ride said. most people have Government jobs and are Business owners teacher and so forth. So you mean to tell me a teacher should post their face on a site like this? Even if it is a face pic seeing it on a site like this people minds already goes too that place!

What if your kids friends or a family member sees you here or your parents. That would be awkward .Most people just blurt of comments and do not think. That is why if I always ask for a face pic. The woman could be a relative or something!

I am not hiding nor is it a secret. It is my own personal private time where I chose to indulge in my kinks and freaks and mild fetishes and look for other woman with the same likes.

Anyway Why would I broadcast I am A Kinky Freaky Pervert??


tooshay_turtle 40M
32 posts
7/29/2021 7:50 am

    Quoting ItsThtPervertGuy:
    Why does everyone need too know all parts of my life? I agree with the blog creator's comment when one poster said people should man up and stop acting like a Bitch. Who is this person to tell others what they should and should not do. Like Discreet Slow Ride said. most people have Government jobs and are Business owners teacher and so forth. So you mean to tell me a teacher should post their face on a site like this? Even if it is a face pic seeing it on a site like this people minds already goes too that place!

    What if your kids friends or a family member sees you here or your parents. That would be awkward .Most people just blurt of comments and do not think. That is why if I always ask for a face pic. The woman could be a relative or something!

    I am not hiding nor is it a secret. It is my own personal private time where I chose to indulge in my kinks and freaks and mild fetishes and look for other woman with the same likes.

    Anyway Why would I broadcast I am A Kinky Freaky Pervert??
Although I agree that no one has the right to tell anyone what to do, the rest of your post is totally ignorant. This line of "a site like this" is the problem. So what is this site? Why do you see it as dirty or wrong to be here? I don't and many others don't. There is nothing dirty or wrong in wanting a healthy sex life. Now, if you are doing something you consider wrong or dirty that you have to hide it fine, but don't condemn everyone on the site including myself as we are doing something we should hide from people by being on here. Would it be awkward to find a friend or family member here? Probably a family member, but I have found friends I knew as well as friends I knew found me here. None of them said "omfg shame on you for doing this." Why? Because they are here too!!!! DUH!!!! Maybe you didn't think when you blurted this out, but if they are here they are doing the same thing you are doing unless you are again doing something really that should be hidden. I have yet to go to a restaurant and have someone at that same restaurant condemn me for going there when they are there too. Same for here. Scenario, you ask for a face pic and find out they ARE a friend/family member now what???? Someone asks you for a face pic and finds out you are friend/family member now what???? They are going to ask for a face pic just like you. It happens!! Maybe this place is there personal private time where they choose to indulge in their kinds and freaks and mild fetishes just like you. You don't own the site so you can't tell friends and family members they can't be here just because you are here either. ROFLMAO I am sure they are not broadcasting it any more than you are, but seriously, if you are not doing something illegal or against the law there is no reason to act like being here is or insinuate that others here are doing something shameful either.

I personally don't care who knows I am here. I am here doing something that is healty and makes a person happy.


tooshay_turtle 40M
32 posts
7/29/2021 7:53 am

Before anyone says it, I know I don't have a photo up!!! I didn't put one up because I am not so much actively looking to meet people as I am not here that often. I just peruse the blogs every now and then nowadays. I took the photo down as it wasn't necessary when I am not looking for that. lol My profile reflects it too.


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
238 posts
7/29/2021 9:32 am

    Quoting tooshay_turtle:
    Before anyone says it, I know I don't have a photo up!!! I didn't put one up because I am not so much actively looking to meet people as I am not here that often. I just peruse the blogs every now and then nowadays. I took the photo down as it wasn't necessary when I am not looking for that. lol My profile reflects it too.
You don't have to explain to anyone the reason you do not have a picture posted. It's your call. People can either accept it or not.


s2ndegree 62M  
9777 posts
7/29/2021 11:14 am

It's only the most natural thing humans can do with each other.Hiding would imply that it's something dirty.Not to mention what does hiding say about the very people here that you're looking for?
Most probably don't want to hear,"You're looking for sex on the internet?That's seems a bit dicey,what are you that desperate.You need to get out more often!"

Using more than all the road!


peninsula_ 51M
4 posts
7/29/2021 11:36 am

I kinda don't care that people know but a big lesson in life is this : "don't give people ammunition that they can and will use against you". Believe me when I say this "a hard lesson to learn when your assets are at risk or lost".


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